They get triggered when women look “younger than their age”. Here’s why.

This article was inspired by a few bullying messages I read on a woman’s Instagram. 

She’s a singer. If I had to guess, I’d say she’s over 60. Yet, she looks younger, sexier, healthier, more fit, more vibrant and more active than many younger women. Yes, I’m aware of Botox, plastic surgery and things of the sort, but in my eyes, it’s not the tightness of her skin that makes her look this way - it’s the energy that she exudes.

The other day, I thought of her, and I decided to look her up on Instagram. I typed in her name and there she was. Gorgeous pictures. I think to myself, “wow, she looks amazing, so fit and vibrant and beautiful!” Then, out of curiosity, I read the comments on a picture, thinking with excitement that I’ll find some peers with whom I can celebrate this woman’s success… 

… but instead, I find an avalanche of hateful comments, people calling her a “bored grandma” and other bully tags of the sort. 

I stopped short, surprised. There I was, feeling admiration for this woman, and there they were, the flock of haters who somehow spend their time looking at pictures and videos of people who trigger them, instead of spending their time looking for people who uplift them. 

That picture and its comments got me thinking, do some people get triggered when women look younger than their age?

I thought of other comments I had received here and there over time, not bullying comments, yet comments that carry inside of them the subtle expectation that while I’m getting older, I will lose my body shape, my skin will look different, and the one comment which always surprised me the most … I will slowly lose my health.

The latter never made sense to me, because the older I got, the healthier I got! If I compare my health to what it used to be twenty years ago, there is an ocean of difference between how healthy and well I am today, and how much toxicity my body was holding back then (when I was ignorant and didn’t know anything about health). 

I am 40 years old (it is now October 2022), and I feel healthier, more vibrant, and more alive than I’ve ever felt in my life. In fact, I feel better and better with each month that goes by. 

So why can’t some people handle the fact that women can get more attractive and healthier the older they get? And why do they want to bring these women down, “put them in their place” and smear them with their own personal limiting beliefs about life, age and health?

First, let me start by saying that I send all the online bullies of the world love and healing. I hold no judgment for how they choose to express their emotions, but I do want to address their behavior with honesty because this will help women cope with it.

The reason why they get triggered is because the woman they see reminds them of their lack of self-love, their victimhood and their limiting beliefs. She is the instrument that lights up their fear. They believe that age (among other circumstances) is the boss of their life, so they feel threatened by anybody who shows them the opposite. 

They lack control over their life. If they believed that they create their own reality and that they aren’t the victims of age (and other circumstances), they would celebrate beauty in a woman over 60 when they saw it, instead of condemning it. 

They don’t understand why they feel triggered.  If they did, they would never write or say hateful comments, and they would instead ask themselves how they can heal. They’re desperately in need of healing, but not understanding this, they utilize the rush of energy they feel when they get triggered, to create drama, negativity and shame. If they can bring everyone down with them, they will be “safe” because there will be no one left to show them where they need healing. Then, they wouldn’t have to face the uncomfortable process of healing themselves.

They think they get triggered because “she shouldn’t be that way”, when in fact, the emotion they feel is there to get their attention about something they need to heal within themselves.

Instead of appreciating her image as a gift from God divinely placed into their lives, they immediately attach the concept of age to her body and her attitude, and they say to themselves “wait a minute, she’s too old to be gorgeous!” 

Sorry fellas, she’s going to be gorgeous whether you like it or not. 

As the singer who prompted me to write this article once said, age is nothing but a social construct.

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I wrote this blog post for all the ladies out there who’ve ever been subjected to such comments. I want you to know that even if they get triggered when they see a healthy, attractive, vibrant woman, there are many more of us who celebrate your beauty, who see you as a gift from God, and who honor your self-expression. Thank you for being you.